Social-Emotional Learning: The Importance of Emotional Intelligence and Positive Peer Relationships

In Montessori education, we understand that academic growth and emotional development go hand in hand. A child who feels secure, understood, and connected is more open to learning, collaboration, and creativity. This is why social-emotional learning (SEL)—the process of developing self-awareness, empathy, and strong interpersonal skills—is woven naturally into the Montessori environment.

Understanding emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one’s own emotions while also being sensitive to the emotions of others. In the Montessori classroom, this is not taught through lectures, but through experience. Children learn self-regulation by having the freedom to make choices within clear boundaries. They develop empathy by working collaboratively, resolving conflicts respectfully, and observing grace and courtesy modeled by their guides. They build self-confidence by mastering tasks independently and experiencing the pride of purposeful work.

Dr. Maria Montessori believed that “the child is both a hope and a promise for mankind.” 

When children learn to manage their feelings and respect those of others, they grow into compassionate leaders and problem solvers—qualities our world deeply needs.

Encouraging positive peer relationships

Montessori classrooms are multi-age communities, which naturally promote mentoring and empathy. Younger children look up to older ones, while older students learn patience, leadership, and compassion as they help their younger peers.

Here are some ways Montessori environments foster positive peer relationships:

• Grace and courtesy lessons: Through role-playing and gentle reminders, children learn how to greet one another, share materials, take turns, and use kind words.

• Collaborative work: Group projects and shared materials help children practice communication and compromise—skills essential for healthy friendships.

• Peace corners and reflection spaces: Many Montessori classrooms include a quiet area where children can take a moment to calm their bodies, breathe, or talk through a disagreement with a friend.

• Modeling and observation: Guides demonstrate empathy and respectful communication daily. Children absorb these patterns and, over time, internalize them in their own interactions.

Building a foundation for life

When emotional intelligence and positive peer relationships are nurtured early, children develop the tools to handle challenges with resilience and kindness. They learn that emotions are not to be feared or suppressed, but understood and expressed with care.

In the Montessori classroom, this harmony of heart and mind lays the foundation for lifelong learning, empathy, and peace.

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Mrs. Bunmi began her Montessori teaching career in Nigeria in 2006. She joined MSF in 2008 and has been a cornerstone of the Montessori School of Franklin for more than 17 years. With an Association Montessori International (AMI) Certification and a BSC in Microbiology, Mrs. Bunmi's expertise is both vast and profound. Her unwavering dedication to the Montessori philosophy is a testament to her belief that "Montessori is not a trend; it is a philosophy and it works. The method is consistent, and the materials are beautiful; the materials are the same in any Montessori classroom around the world." Beyond her professional accolades, including being named The Nashville Scene's best private school teacher as well as Teacher of the Month by WKRN and TN Lottery, Mrs. Bunmi’s life is enriched by her love for cooking and cherishing moments with her husband and two daughters. Her passion for nurturing relationships is as profound as her impact in the classroom, making her a truly exceptional educator.